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The foundation of your feeling of safety goes back to your early years, affecting your attachment style in adulthood. In order to preserve a strong bond with your partner over time, it is essential to comfort each other's deep-seated insecurities and handle each other's negative feelings, especially during disagreements. Above all, it is crucial for both partners to show a readiness to support each other unconditionally. Make an effort to bring a smile to your partner's face. Take the opportunity to guess what might make your partner happy as a little experiment. Then try it out and see if you were correct. For instance, you could give your partner a spontaneous back massage. This will not only enhance the connection between you two but also provide insights into your partner and your relationship.
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InsightWired for Love (2012) explores strategies for nurturing emotional security and maintaining intimacy in romantic relationships by drawing on insights from neurobiology and psychology. By delving into the reasons why conflicts arise between long-term couples, this guide provides practical advice on leveraging our understanding of brain functions to foster peace and mutual reassurance in your partnership.
Stan Tatkin is a clinician and researcher who has developed the “psychobiological” approach to couple therapy. He works with family medicine residents at Kaiser Permanente in Woodland Hills, California. He is the author of six other books, including the bestselling Wired for Dating (2016).
The foundation of your feeling of safety goes back to your early years, affecting your attachment style in adulthood. In order to preserve a strong bond with your partner over time, it is essential to comfort each other's deep-seated insecurities and handle each other's negative feelings, especially during disagreements. Above all, it is crucial for both partners to show a readiness to support each other unconditionally. Make an effort to bring a smile to your partner's face. Take the opportunity to guess what might make your partner happy as a little experiment. Then try it out and see if you were correct. For instance, you could give your partner a spontaneous back massage. This will not only enhance the connection between you two but also provide insights into your partner and your relationship.
6 BitesEarly life experiences shape the sense of security one feels in later relationships.
Deepen the bond in your relationship by grasping your partner's vulnerabilities.
Disagreement arises when the brain's desire for safety is activated.
Try to prevent disagreements by recognizing and handling your partner's adverse feelings.
Establishing a routine before going to sleep and after waking up can strengthen the bond between you and your partner.
Make a mutual agreement to be there for your partner all day, every day.
