Recently separated? Avoid calling. There is no valid excuse to keep in touch with your ex after the relationship is over - at least, not until you have closure. Maintaining contact only slows down the healing process; choosing not to contact gives you the freedom to move on from the heartbreak. So, be strong, avoid contact, and stick to your boundaries. Choosing not to contact? It involves the entire family. If you were very close with your ex, chances are you were close with their family as well. It is natural to want to stay connected. After all, you only broke up with them, not their family. Unfortunately, you will not benefit from cutting off contact with your ex if you still call their mother every week. Write a kind, polite message to the family, informing them that you will be out of touch for a while.
relationships
18 min
8 Bite
InsightIf you're struggling with a breakup, unable to move on from your ex, or trapped in an unstable relationship, The No Contact Rule provides the straightforward advice you need. Within these pages, you'll discover techniques for creating emotional distance, redirecting your focus to self-care, and ultimately achieving closure.
Natalie Lue is the self-described Marie Kondo for emotional baggage. She’s the creator of the enormously popular blog Baggage Reclaim and host of the Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. Her second book, The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship, was published to much acclaim in 2012.
Recently separated? Avoid calling. There is no valid excuse to keep in touch with your ex after the relationship is over - at least, not until you have closure. Maintaining contact only slows down the healing process; choosing not to contact gives you the freedom to move on from the heartbreak. So, be strong, avoid contact, and stick to your boundaries. Choosing not to contact? It involves the entire family. If you were very close with your ex, chances are you were close with their family as well. It is natural to want to stay connected. After all, you only broke up with them, not their family. Unfortunately, you will not benefit from cutting off contact with your ex if you still call their mother every week. Write a kind, polite message to the family, informing them that you will be out of touch for a while.
8 BitesEnding a relationship properly involves cutting all ties effectively.
Decide whether going without contact is the best choice for you.
By being organized and committed, avoiding contact can be simple.
You have the option to maintain distance while still co-parenting.
Cut off all contact to end harmful communication patterns.
Implement tactics to guarantee you adhere to the no-communication policy.
No communication will help make your relationship with yourself the strongest it has ever been.
Avoiding contact will help improve your relationship with yourself to its maximum potential.
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