How to be Love(d)

Book summary

Humble The Poet, also known as Kanwer Singh, is a Canadian-born artist, rapper, and social media personality. A former elementary school teacher, his books Unlearn and Things No One Else Can Teach Us have become international best sellers. His work has been featured in the New York Times, BuzzFeed, Vogue, Rolling Stone, and Huffington Post among others.

Love thrives on honesty, yet many of us carry secrets that weigh us down emotionally, creating barriers to connection. True love, whether for oneself or others, requires openness, self-awareness, and the courage to align with personal values, even at the risk of rejection. While stories often portray love as a destination, in reality, it’s an ongoing journey of effort and growth. Differentiating fleeting pleasures (“Small L” love) from profound, transformative connections (“Big L” love) is essential, as the latter demands intentionality and communication. Love isn’t something external to chase but a boundless force within, accessible through self-love and shared through understanding and acceptance of others’ unique ways of expressing it. By embracing imperfections—both our own and others’—and focusing on progress rather than perfection, we create a cycle of giving and receiving love that enriches our lives, even amid inevitable challenges like conflict and heartbreak.

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