The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control

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Katherine Morgan Schafler is a psychotherapist, speaker, and writer. She studied at UC Berkeley and Columbia University, and earned a post-graduate certification from the Association for Spirituality and Psychotherapy in New York City. The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control is her first book.

When self-compassion feels unattainable, seeking connection with others can serve as a substitute, though its benefits may take time to emerge. Support comes in various forms, from emotional conversations to practical help like childcare or household tasks, and even physical activities like yoga or group sports that foster both health and community. Adapting to perfectionism involves shifting from self-criticism to self-kindness, recognizing differences rather than comparisons, and embracing the process rather than fixating on outcomes. Perfectionism, often misunderstood as a flaw, can be a strength when harnessed effectively. It exists in adaptive and maladaptive forms, with the former inspiring growth and satisfaction, and the latter leading to anxiety and dissatisfaction. Understanding the five types of perfectionists—classic, Parisian, procrastinator, messy, and intense—helps highlight strengths and address challenges. By focusing on learning from failures, celebrating progress, and practicing self-compassion, perfectionists can transform their tendencies into powerful tools for personal growth and fulfillment.

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